Enneagram and Marriage

Christa Hardin, MA
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The Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, hosted by Christa Hardin, MA, is rooted in two decades of experience counseling and coaching couples. On top of her expert marriage advice, Christa uses the Enneagram to add another layer of understanding in how we work as individuals and gives us deeper insight into how we connect and shine together in marriage and relationships across the collective community.

  1. 4D AGO • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Series: Breaking Trauma Bonds: Why We Keep Recreating Painful Patterns

    In this powerful first episode of our new series on trauma bonds, we explore why we're drawn to relationship dynamics that feel familiar but hurt us. Trauma bonds occur when we recreate childhood attachment patterns that never worked—like pursuing harder when someone withdraws or shutting down when someone needs connection. Discover how your nervous system becomes programmed to mistake chaos for love and why these patterns feel impossible to break despite causing so much pain. Learn to recognize the difference between authentic connection and the intense but unstable feelings of a trauma bond. Whether you find yourself constantly chasing unavailable partners, sabotaging healthy relationships, or caught in cycles of conflict and reconciliation, this episode offers compassionate insight into why these patterns persist and how your Enneagram type influences your specific trauma bonding style.

    17 min

  2. 4D AGO

    Holding Vigil: The Sacred Arts of Prayer and Presence in Marriage

    In this heartfelt episode, discover the transformative power of "holding vigil" for your spouse through prayer and presence in a way that reallly costs, but also really gives, both to you and your spouse. Learn both general tips and how each Enneagram type uniquely supports their partner during difficult times and what challenges they face in staying present. Drawing from literary examples like Frodo and Sam, Atticus Finch and personal experiences, Christa explores how true empathy creates sacred space in marriage, and your faith journey, reflecting on Matthew 11:28. Perfect for couples seeking deeper connection through life's challenges. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    18 min

  3. 6D AGO

    When Both Partners Carry the Mental Load: A Better Share with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

    Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too. Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened? In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically. Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes—even better sex. Watch on YouTube www.DrMorganCutlip.com If you're listening on our E + M podcast release date of Monday, April 7th, you can also use this to get the pre-order bonuses! https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder Get the new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex here! https://a.co/d/g7e3qKv For more help discovering your relationship healing journey, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    49 min

  4. APR 2

    Beyond the Box: When You Don't Fit Just One Enneagram Type

    When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here! For more help discovering your relationship healing journey, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    22 min

  5. APR 1 • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subsciber Series: Where Do You Go? Understanding Your Escape Patterns

    We all have moments when we want to run from vulnerability, conflict, or difficult emotions—but the way we escape is unique to our Enneagram type. In this illuminating spiral-learning episode, discover your specific escape patterns and how they impact your relationships. Learn about Heart types (2,3,4) and escape through image management, Head types (5,6,7) and escape through mental activity, and Body types (8,9,1), escaping through control or numbing, as well as tips for each type as we finish the series. Most of all, identify your early warning signs and develop practical tools for staying present when everything in you wants to run. This episode offers compassionate insights and simple practices to help you recognize when you're checking out and build your capacity for authentic connection. Whether you're seeking deeper intimacy in relationships or greater self-awareness, understanding your escape patterns provides a practical path toward presence and growth.

    19 min

  6. MAR 31

    Finding Grace in the Mess: Dana K. White on Home Management and Spiritual Freedom

    Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, if no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you.With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her own journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged—by others or themselves—for the state of their home. Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/ Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for more relationship resources! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    42 min

  7. MAR 26

    When Anxiety Takes the Wheel: Understanding Your Type's Relationship with Fear

    How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, processes, and responds to fear. Discover why Head types (5,6,7) intellectualize anxiety, Heart types (2,3,4) emotionalize it, and Body types (8,9,1) somaticize it—creating entirely different anxiety experiences. Learn how your type's core fears amplify specific anxieties and the unconscious strategies you've developed to manage them. Through compassionate exploration and practical tools, this episode offers a personalized approach to understanding your relationship with anxiety. Whether you're seeking to support a partner through anxious moments or develop greater self-awareness, these type-specific insights provide a roadmap for transforming your relationship with fear. With concrete practices for each type, this episode empowers you to recognize anxiety's early signals and respond with presence rather than reactivity. Find more at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    13 min

  8. MAR 26 • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Subscriber Series: Escape Patterns: How Your Type Avoids Discomfort (Part 3)

    n this third installment of our four-part series on escape patterns, we dive deep into the sophisticated ways we avoid emotional discomfort. Building on previous episodes exploring the foundations of avoidance and attachment-based escape routes, this episode reveals how each Enneagram type creates unique exit strategies from pain, vulnerability, and growth. Discover why Heart types (2,3,4) escape through image management, Head types (5,6,7) through mental detachment, and Body types (8,9,1) through control or numbing. Learn to recognize your own automatic escape hatches and why true intimacy requires the courage to stay present when everything in you wants to run. With practical tools for interrupting these patterns, this episode provides the compassionate insight needed to begin dismantling your most persistent avoidance strategies and build capacity for authentic connection.

    12 min
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The Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, hosted by Christa Hardin, MA, is rooted in two decades of experience counseling and coaching couples. On top of her expert marriage advice, Christa uses the Enneagram to add another layer of understanding in how we work as individuals and gives us deeper insight into how we connect and shine together in marriage and relationships across the collective community.

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  • Creator
    Christa Hardin, MA
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2025
  • Episodes
    603
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2019-2024 Christa Hardin "Enneagram and Marriage" All Rights Reserved
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    Enneagram and Marriage
  • Provider
    Christa Hardin

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